It's already over a month since our beloved Ruby left us for the next world, and I still miss her terribly.
I think I'd go so far as to say this is probably the most difficult loss I've ever had to deal with in my life to date. I've lost pets before, and it's always been a tragic, terrible experience, but there was something about Ruby in particular that felt… special.
Perhaps it was the fact that she and her companion (possibly mother?) Meg were the first "big" pets I'd ever had for myself. Andie and I had kept rats for a few years beforehand and they had all been delightful companions to have around (despite the smell of rat piss)… but a pet like a cat is a longer-term commitment, a companion for a more significant amount of your life, and someone with whom you develop a much more intimate connection.
In my experience with cats over the years, different cats are comfortable with varying amounts of intimacy.
The cat I grew up with, Penelope, was a somewhat haughty cat who very much believed that she was in charge of the household — but not in a purely selfish way. On the contrary, she could often be found "taking care" of us in various ways; my parents are very fond of telling the story how, when I was a very young child, she would sit outside my bedroom if I was ill, and if I started crying, she would come and fetch my mother. In her later years, she had that unique ability cats have to know when you need some company, and she would come and spend time with you to listen to your problems.
After Penelope passed away of old age, it wasn't long before my family decided that we didn't want to live without a cat, and so we acquired Kitty from a nearby rescue shelter. Kitty was not the name we would have given a cat, but she already knew and responded to it, so Kitty it was.
Kitty apparently came from a home where she had been somewhat terrorised by a dog, and as such was somewhat wary when we first got her. She was particularly afraid of going outside, and seemingly rather small for her supposed age. It didn't take long for her to understand that she had found herself in a loving family, however, and quickly blossomed into a cat who liked nothing more than to jump on your lap and fall over. Even if you were a self-professed "not a cat person". She was particularly fond of demonstrating this affectionate side of herself on our local rock star Don Airey (of Deep Purple fame) whenever he came to visit.
And Ruby… she was one of the friendliest cats I've ever come across. She adored me, and that was a wonderful feeling. Andie noted that Ruby would often come and "ask" her where I was when I wasn't yet home from work, and if I'd shut myself in the living room to record some videos, Ruby would always want to come in and join me.
If I was sitting on the sofa (which, let's face it, I usually am), Ruby would come and sit with me, and would always arrange herself in such a way that as much of her body as possible was resting against me. This was something that she did with such frequency that I even drew reference to it in my coverage of the visual novel series Nekopara last year.
Meg is extremely affectionate too, I have to add — and probably more so since Ruby left us — but it's hard not to miss those feelings of genuine love and warmth from someone who isn't here any more. I miss her so much, and I wish things could be different; I wish she didn't have to leave us so soon, and that I could be writing something happier right now with her softness resting against my thigh as it had done on so many other occasions.
But it's not to be. Ruby may be somewhere else now — somewhere that I hope she's as happy as she was when she was with us — but she'll also always be with me in my heart. I'll never forget her and the love she made me feel, and I'll strive to make her proud.





