I'm pretty sure most of us have behaviours and signals that things are going well or badly at any given time.
For me, it's the length of my beard and hair. Generally speaking, the more unkempt I look, the worse I am feeling; in other words, the length of my beard and hair are directly proportional (inversely proportional?) to my current state of mental health.
I trimmed my beard to a somewhat more manageable length this evening. It wasn't necessarily because I'm feeling any better about things than I have done, but it felt like something of a symbolic gesture if nothing else: the desire to see things change and get better. To put it another way, I trimmed my beard in anticipation of an improvement in my mental health. If it happens, great; if it doesn't, well, I have a somewhat neater beard than I had when I woke up this morning.
The length of various hairs growing out of my body isn't the only indicator of my mental state, though. The tidiness of the rooms in which I spend the most time is, too. Specifically, when we're talking about the lounge, which is where I'm writing this from right now, the amount of crap there is on the coffee table is generally directly proportional to how miserable I've been recently. There's a fair bit of crap on there at the moment, though at least part of that is down to the takeaway curry we had for dinner this evening.
I say all this, but it's entirely possible that it all works the other way around, of course. Perhaps my hair and beard being long is what causes my mental health to decline. Perhaps the messiness of my environment causes me to feel bad.
Or, perhaps, it's the more likely situation: both sides contribute to each other. I feel miserable, so I let things slide, then I see how much I've let things slide, and that makes me miserable, so I let things slide further because it doesn't feel "worth" doing anything about them, then I see how much worse things have gotten… you get the idea and see how this works, yes? This is, broadly speaking, how depression works, and how it can get you into an endless spiral, circling the Drain of Misery but never quite — in most cases, anyway — getting completely sucked down it.
I've been in worse situations in my life. Things could be much worse right now. Certain aspects of my life are fairly positive. But on the whole, there are a lot of influences making me a bit miserable at the moment. Not exactly how you want to be feeling going into the festive season, for sure, but all I can keep doing for now is looking forward and hoping for better days ahead, I guess.
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You've hit it on the head Pete. The downward cycle perpetuates itself. If you change the parameters – cut your beard, tidy yourself and your surrounds up, open blinds so light streams in – the circle changes direction. This is fact. I know this to be true personally. I've changed others lives by advising this. It's like you create a KEY that opens the positive life. And knowing the KEY if you should have a glitch and backslide a bit, it takes moments to set things straight, back into the positive cycle. Try it my dear friend and see how you go. You're already on the brink of it by your musings and suppositions above. Walk in, see the messy, gather it up and remove it to the kitchen bins and sink – clean it up there too if you can raise the energy – then return with the wet dishcloth and wipe the table till it shines. You will feel so good. And I have to tell you that I am not a cleaning freak – my physical condition doesn't allow it anyway. But despite my messy husband I can keep the surfaces clear and therefore my cycle heading upwards. When I notice how flat or down I've become I take a look at the kitchen bench – lo and behold it will be covered in newspapers, junk mail, and my Pete's stuff!! I curse, then clean it up and tell him off when he gets home if I still feel the need to vent. 😀 lol Lifts the spirits no end! 😀