Another thing I've noticed is the connotations around friendship. Serious friendships after a certain age is considered "childish" or "feminine" (nothing wrong with femininity). This makes it difficult to criticize friends who are not being respectful or to even feel wronged by them. The many times I have called friends out, it's often taken with a sort of disgust or surprise that a man should even care about another man's attention. If so, they must be a homosexual.

Maybe it's the autism, having this unnatural sensitivity to what many would consider small things, because I too remember incidents no one else does that seem to hurt me a great deal like you've mentioned about the response to the invitation of your birthday last year or having something like a prize which was meant for a special occasion, i.e. to be won, being returned to you.

Anyway, happy birthday, I hope you have another good year.

No worries! This is something I continue to grapple with myself, but I think I'm a little better than I have been. Analysis paralysis is such a killer of enjoyment, relaxation and even personal growth, so sometimes you've just gotta tell yourself "just pick something!" — there are no "wrong" choices when it comes to engaging with media that is good for your mental wellbeing.

You don't want to know, believe me!

I feel the same about professional online social spaces too. In that instance you've set up a communal clubhouse for folks to enjoy their shared interests together, and the last thing you need is someone stinking the place up.

You owe rude people nothing, whether in your personal or professional life. Drop them in the sin bin and never think of them again, I say!

So, I hear you. I know the feeling.

Localisation into English is censorship? That's news to me – I don't even know what that means! 😅