Tag: dieting

#oneaday Day 141: Progress report

It’s been nearly a week that I’ve been following the NHS 12-week “Weight Loss” app programme so far, which basically just means I’ve been counting calories for 6 days. But I’ve been pleasantly surprised by a few things. I’m yet to weigh myself to see if anything has happened as a result of this week as yet — I’ve set “Monday morning after the really long morning piss” as the weekly weigh-in — but as with most things like this, the programme is as much about getting yourself into decent habits as it is about making number go down.

The thing I’ve been most pleasantly surprised about is how possible it is to eat “normally” and enjoyably without breaking the calorie bank. In the last week, I don’t feel like I’ve really had to “give anything up”; when I’ve fancied some crisps, I’ve had some crisps, when I’ve fancied some chocolate, I’ve had some chocolate. The important thing is paying attention to those things and ensuring you don’t do them to excess, and being honest about counting them. As such, even though I’ve had crisps and chocolate and a few other bits and pieces most diets would probably count as “naughty” on some diet plans throughout the week, I’ve still come to the end of each day below the calorie allowance I have.

Now part of this is because I’m a big lad and thus need a few more calories than someone who is normal-sized, but I figure cutting back can be a gradual process. In thinking about what I’m eating and counting the calories, I’m already finding myself thinking “well, I can probably do without that and it will save me 250 calories”. For example, with lunch today I eschewed a bag of crisps and I didn’t really miss them. I suspect long-term I can retrain myself to think that lunchtime doesn’t have to involve a bag of crisps, and thus a bag of crisps can be mentally moved from “expected part of lunch” to “occasional treat”. That seems like a positive step, for sure.

This is a positive move. One of the reasons I have found myself struggling with more “plan-based” approaches in recent years is the feeling that I’m “giving things up” and “missing out” on them. When you specifically rule out certain things from your diet, it turns out that you really crave them. And while when I did Slimming World 10 years or so back I could handle that, this time around I’ve really struggled. And thus it was time to try something different.

As I say, so far it remains to be seen if what I’ve done this week has actually had any tangible effect or if I need to step my efforts up a bit, but from next week I’m planning to start being a little more active again.

Y’see, part of the reason I’m in the state I’m in is due to the COVID years. The whole lockdown thing, coupled with general laziness, caused me to gain a bunch of weight, stop doing any sort of exercise and even start feeling a bit uneasy about going outside generally. That’s not a good place in which to find yourself, so I need to start taking additional steps to sort that out, and getting back into a gym habit will be a good means of doing that.

The reason I haven’t done that this week alongside starting the calorie counting is I did my back in somehow while we were away on holiday, and it’s just starting now to feel like it’s a bit better. I didn’t want to agitate it with exercise, so I’ve been waiting until whatever the problem was appears to have “healed”, and I think it’s pretty much there. So from Monday, I’m going to make an effort to go to the gym at least three times throughout the week.

I think I talked about this elsewhere, but I also plan to not overwhelm myself by suddenly starting a long, intense exercise routine. I’m going to begin by just going and doing, say, 20-30 minutes walking on the treadmill. I have a bit of a mental block where I feel like “just” doing that is a waste of time, but when you’re in the state I’m in, it’s absolutely not. Ideally what I’d want to do is maybe one day 20-30 minutes on the treadmill, then the next day just do the strength training machines, then alternate back and forth between them. That way, over the course of the week, I can end up having done the “recommended” amount of exercise, and I’ll have also done a bit of both cardio and strength.

I don’t yet know if my mental wellbeing and willpower is quite up to that as yet, but it’s something to aim for at least. For now, I’m going to count “went to gym at least three times” next week as a success, and anything more than that is a happy bonus. And that will kick off on Monday, giving me tomorrow to relax a bit, make sure my back is in working order and mentally prepare myself for what’s ahead.

I want to beat this. I know it’s possible, and I know it’s going to be hard work. Right now I’m feeling oddly motivated, so I wanted to put pen to paper and actually express that. Whether I feel the same way on Monday remains to be seen, but these sorts of things always have to be one step at a time, slowly but surely.

And so here I am, taking those slow but sure steps. Here’s hoping they prove to be both worthwhile and sustainable.

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#oneaday Day 136: Reset and Restart

Now that I’m back from holiday — and had a thoroughly lovely time, aside from apparently putting my back out because I am an old man — it’s time to get serious about the ol’ weight loss. I’m fed up of treading water and making no progress, so I’m trying a bit of a different tack. Slimming World unfortunately hasn’t quite been working for me this time around, so I have instead decided to try the NHS weight loss app. This is pretty much just a glorified calorie tracker, but it has some helpful articles and things that pop up over the course of following a 12-week plan, plus encouragements to check your progress at sensible intervals rather than obsessing over things daily.

I’m also intending to get back into the gym when my back feels a bit better. I have a casual half-plan to alternate cardio and strength training days so I neither overwhelm myself with too much “stuff” on a single day, nor do I feel like I’m “taking up” too much of my personal time with exercise. I know I should consider exercise a valuable use of my personal time, but the reality of the situation is that I’m still in a position where I somewhat resent it. That needs to change, and it’s going to be a gradual process. So establishing a simple, manageable and minimally intrusive routine is what I think will work for me.

Same with the food. I’ve talked a little on here about my experiences with food and why I’ve ended up the way I am, and based purely on anecdotal evidence, I feel like I’m struggling with a kind of “addiction”. Y’see, I’ve seen people struggling with addiction (to substances other than food) and, as unpleasant as it is to think about and admit, I recognise a lot of similar habits in myself.

Where someone with an alcohol addiction can’t resist buying a bottle of vodka from the shop and hiding it upon getting home, “self-medicating” with it in secret even if other people know that’s what they’re doing, I, too, will find myself at the shop telling myself I “deserve” something that is bad for me. Often multiple things that are bad for me, compounding the problem. And I know they’re bad for me, because I’ll inevitably scarf them down before I return home and take care to throw away the evidence of my secret shame before doing so.

And it absolutely is a form of “self-medication”. I eat to relieve all sorts of things. Boredom, sadness, tiredness, loneliness; any sort of vaguely negative emotion, my body’s conditioned response has become “eat something”. And that’s got me into a terrible situation that with every passing day it feels harder and harder to escape from. I’m ashamed of myself and disgusted with myself, and yet still these behaviours persist.

But I am, at least, aware of them. And gradually changing those behaviours is what I’m trying to do with this new, simpler approach. Today I have come in under my calorie goal and still have enough remaining for a nice glass of milk to accompany bedtime. I haven’t accompanied every trip downstairs with a chocolate biscuit or a bag of crisps, and honestly I haven’t really missed them. I had a decent breakfast, a perfectly acceptable lunch and a good dinner, none of which were the depressing sorts of things you read in slimmers’ “success stories”. And approaching things this way has not left me feeling like I’m “missing out” on anything.

Because that was one of the problems I was having with Slimming World this time around. While their plan is effective if you can follow it, if you get into the mindset that you’re “not allowed” certain things, that just leads you to crave them more. And then you indulge those cravings a little bit “because just one won’t hurt”, and before you know it you’re completely sabotaging your own efforts, completely conscious of the fact that you’re doing so.

That’s what happened to me this time around. I had got myself into the mindset that I could “get away” with the odd little “cheat” here and there, but the odd little cheat here and there turned into near-constant cheating, to such a degree that I was actively hampering my own efforts.

And honestly, there is nothing more depressing than reading something like this:

What I used to eat for breakfast:

  • Bacon sandwich
  • Fried Egg
  • Sausage
  • Beans
  • 2 slices of toast
  • Large cup of coffee

What I eat now:

  • Small handful of chia seeds
  • Berries I foraged from the weeds in the back garden
  • A couple of twigs
  • Pond water

It is possible to lead a comfortable, healthy lifestyle without living exclusively off bits of old wood chippings and leaves. It has to be. There are myriad normal people around the world who happily exist on a day-to-day basis, able to enjoy an occasional coffee and a cake and a Tesco Meal Deal for lunch without ballooning to an absurd size. The key, as with anything, is not to do the “treats” to excess. And that is the difficult bit, because treats are delicious and can often induce a temporary feeling of what appears to be happiness and satisfaction

But it’s temporary. Then comes the regret, and the self-loathing, which you end up wanting to… you get the idea.

Anyway. This is a fresh start. Nothing that came before matters. There shall be no guilt, no regret, just determination. I will see how things go from here. It can’t hurt to try.

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