Christmas is coming, and that means yet another year of people who think they are absolutely hilarious for informing you of their sudden revelation that Die Hard is a Christmas movie. Societal norms dictate that you are supposed to laugh at this, pretend you’ve never heard it before and explain, incredulously, that “it really is, isn’t it?” or something along those lines.
As an autistic person, I have the regrettable tendency to spot patterns in everyfuckingthing, particularly human interactions. And, doubly regrettably, I find predictable patterns in human interaction oddly infuriating. One would think these patterns would make communicating with one another easier, particularly for one with the social anxiety that so often goes along with autism.
But no; somehow, I have transcended these “easy wins” of polite conversation and crossed over into the territory where I can see these mindless, predictable exchanges as being utterly meaningless, devoid of any real connection between the participants, instead just relying on quoting something other people have said a million bajillion katillion times over already.
I think my distaste from this at least partly stems from someone I knew at university who, in retrospect, was probably also autistic, as his sole contribution to conversations on numerous occasions was to repeatedly and relentlessly quote Blackadder, devoid of any context whatsoever. It wore me down so much over the course of four years that I was not able to even contemplate watching Blackadder for a good long while afterwards.
It’s not just that, though, as I’m sure even a non-autistic person can understand how that would become exceedingly annoying over the course of four years. I think the thing that frustrates me more than anything is how I’m sure everyone involved in the conversation about how Lisa from Accounts “can’t deal with the word ‘moist'” knows that, in fact, Lisa from Accounts really has no strong feelings about the word “moist” and is instead simply parroting something she heard someone else say that she found quite amusing, perhaps in the hope that someone she likes might flirtatiously start using the word “moist” around her more, giving her ample opportunity to do that thing where people go “oh, no, stop, you big silly” and push someone away while laughing, when they actually just want to shag them.
Or something. I don’t know. The very prospect of behaving like that has always annoyed me sufficiently that I never attempted to carry it through to potential shag territory.
It’s the insincerity of it that bugs me, I think. It’s the very worst kind of small talk; supposed “communication” that is doing nothing but fill silences, but nothing of any real substance is being discussed. People aren’t actually getting to know one another or improving their relationships with one another when they have the “pineapple on pizza is weird, isn’t it?” discussion; they’re simply reading from the hymn sheet in a vain attempt to make themselves look Funny and Cool, because as everyone really tries to drum into you while you’re growing up, Having A Good Sense of Humour is the most important character trait anyone can develop, regardless of situation.
I do not, at this point, wish to imply that I am devoid of a good sense of humour. In fact, I have a fucking excellent sense of humour, thank you very much. Well, okay, I still have pretty much the same sense of humour I did when I was 15 years old, which means I still find farts hilarious, but at least when you let out a particularly salty grunt in front of friends, family or colleagues, you’re taking a bit of a risk under most circumstances. You’re putting yourself out there (quite literally, in terms of gaseous emissions) and, effectively, saying “this is something I find funny” without resorting to material that Michael McIntyre might find “a bit tired”.
Of course, I appreciate that there are doubtless plenty of you out there who think a rancid bottom-burp is the absolute worst thing someone can do in polite company. And that’s fine, too. There are plenty of people I wouldn’t (voluntarily) let off a trouser-trumpet in front of because, despite the autism, I know that it’s not a good idea.
But even so. A fruity guff is something you’ve made yourself, rather than stolen from wherever these inane non-discussions came from in the first place. And thus, if you want to be pals with me, I’d much rather you let rip with a thunderous eggy woofter than even think about telling me how funny it is that Die Hard is “technically” a Christmas movie.
Parp.
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