2351: One Year Anniversary

My wife Andie and I have been married for one year today. Good going, us.

For those of you who were unable to attend our wedding last year, I thought now might be a good time to share the speech I made at said reception, as it’s still relevant now. (Apart from all the bits that refer to “today”, which you can take to mean “June 27, 2015” instead.)

Hello everyone, thanks for coming. It’s great to see so many of you together here in one place — in some cases, we haven’t seen each other for quite some time. I think there’s a relevant Lord of the Rings quote here, but my best man Tim is more suitably equipped to be able to make that reference, so I’ll leave that to him.

I wanted to start today with something that is probably the height of impropriety, and that’s to acknowledge that this isn’t the first time I’ve done this. I think most of you here already know that, but it’s important to acknowledge it, I feel — not only to dispel any awkwardness that might result from that knowledge, but also because it’s relevant to why I’m standing here today.

First time around, you see, things were a whirlwind. And in all the excitement, I failed to realise some very important things: that while it absolutely is possible to make a partnership work if the two of you have disparate interests, if either or both of you find it difficult or impossible to meet the other halfway and at least respect the things that they’re into even if you don’t share those interests, things will go south pretty quickly.

Now, I don’t want to dwell on that too much, because that’s not the reason we’re here today. Suffice to say, however, that awkward situation is a thing of the past — and while my new wife and I certainly have our own interests that we’re happy to pursue independently of one another (I like Japanese video games with saucy artwork, she likes painting intricate designs on her fingernails) we also share some very important things that have become a big part of our life.

Those of you who know your video games will recognise a lot of today’s festivities as involving Final Fantasy — particularly Final Fantasy XIV, an online multiplayer installment of the long-running series that I’ve been playing since 2013, and which Andie later joined me in, much to my surprise and delight. Through that game, we’ve forged some very close friendships — as close as the friendships we have with many of you sitting here — and as such, I thought it was eminently appropriate for my proposal to Andie to be delivered as part of our in-game characters’ wedding ceremony back in January. Unusually, this means that there’s an actual video of how I proposed thanks to our guildmate recording the whole experience if you ever want to go and watch it and make me blush a bit. (It’s not hard.) [Editor’s note: I genuinely don’t know what the link is to this or if it’s still online. But it may still be out there somewhere.]

Now, unfortunately, as our guildmates are scattered across the world, most of them couldn’t join us here today, but we know that they’re here in spirit — and I did want to particularly show my gratitude to Chris, aka Reimi, healer extraordinaire, for sharing today with us. The rest of our fellow adventurers are eagerly awaiting photos and videos of our big day, so please do share any media you create today!

But back to Andie and me. I feel that our shared love of Final Fantasy XIV is actually rather symbolic of the journey we’ve taken together in many ways. We both play the game to a high level, taking on some of its toughest challenges together with our friends. Together, we’ve toppled the mighty dragon Twintania, fended off meteors and ancient pillars dropping on our heads long enough to dispatch Nael deus Darnus, and even vanquished the very angry — justifiably so — Elder Primal Bahamut himself.

And we’ve overcome our own challenges in reality, too. I shan’t go into details for now, because it really isn’t the time — suffice to say, though, both of us have dealt with our share of real life raid bosses: challenges that seem insurmountable and want nothing more than our complete annihilation, but challenges that we could overcome by working together, supporting one another and simply being there for each other. I’ll forever be grateful to my new wife for standing by me through some difficult times — and I hope she feels the same way too.

Sappy bit over. I believe it falls to me to deliver some “thank yous”, because a lot of hard work has gone on behind the scenes to make today happen.

Thanks to Andie, first of all, for doing the lion’s share of the organisation, because I’m a man and therefore useless at sorting this sort of thing out.

Thanks to our parents: Agnes, Val and John, for working together to help today be truly special.

Thanks to Rob for his generous loan of the PA system which we’re pumping music through over the course of the afternoon and evening.

Thanks to my best man Tim for his support in the weeks leading up to the wedding, and for being one of my most trusted friends who doesn’t spend most of his time pretending to be a catgirl on the Internet.

Thanks to everyone else who has contributed their time, money and effort towards today; I’m almost certain there are people I’ve forgotten or don’t know by name well enough to acknowledge you individually, but believe me, your labours are very much appreciated.

And thank you all for being here today. It means a great deal that you can share this special day with us.

Finally, Googling “who does the groom toast” reminded me that I’m supposed to toast the bridesmaids at the end of my speech. Before I do that, I’ll also thank them for their contributions today — and for both being an important part of Andie’s life. So please, if you would, raise your glasses, and join me in a toast to the bridesmaids.

A toast to Andie, too, for putting up with me while dealing with all the things she has to deal with, too. She’s stronger, more capable and more wonderful than she’d ever care to admit (and me attempting to say this to her face normally results in her wriggling off uncomfortably somewhere, so I’m saying it here instead) and I love her to bits.

Here’s to many more years ahead of us. And I say that with confidence.