1090: Housewarming

Tonight Andie and I are hosting a housewarming party. We attempted to do this in the last house we moved into, but failed miserably at getting people to come, making it a rather quiet affair. (We did have some people, just nowhere near what we were hoping for!)

(Aside: If you are a friend of mine and in the Southampton area and were inexplicably left off the invites list on teh Facebookz, it was not intentional and you are welcome to come and join us — just drop me a text or a message via various forms of social media and let me know you’re coming.)

Anyway, yes. We are throwing a party. Now there’s a word that changes its meaning as you get older and, theoretically, wiser.

When you’re a kid, a “party” is a big deal, because it’s something well out of the ordinary and, usually, a celebration of an important event — typically a birthday. I remember going to a number of birthday parties for various kids in the village where I grew up, and it was always fun doing things like playing Pass The Parcel and that stupid game where you had to put on a scarf, hat, coat and gloves and then eat a bar of chocolate with a knife and fork. You know, that one. No? Just me? Damn rural upbringing.

Then you get to be a teenager, and a “party” is typically an illicit sort of affair where you take over the house and invite too many people around while your parents are away. I attended a few of these and threw one of my own that I got into a lot of trouble for and still feel somewhat guilty about to date. (It was an awesome party, though, to be fair.) The key thing here was the illicit nature of it, though — it was an occasion for teenagers to do things they weren’t supposed to do, like drink, smoke and… err, anything else that teenagers who weren’t me probably did. (I had a somewhat sheltered life.)

Then you get to university, and “parties” become acceptable again, though they tend not to be tied to a particular occasion. “[Insert name of person you barely know] is having a party tonight,” your housemate will say. “Want to go?” The correct response is, of course, “yes,” because undoubtedly there will be a ton of drink, possibly stuff to eat and, in the eyes of a horny late-teens-early-twenties person, the potential to get laid that inevitably never comes to anything. (Not that I’m complaining; I was never really the one-night stand type.) The thing with parties of this nature, though, is that they tend to have no real purpose — they’re purely social occasions designed to get people together, not a celebration of anything. They’re barely even a celebration of friendship, because inevitably there’ll be a bunch of people there who no-one seems to know, who will have showed up as a sort of “friend of a friend” arrangement.

There are exceptions to the above, of course — after-show parties from Theatre Group productions at university were always entertaining. I will never forget the one which coined the phrase “The Chair of Eternal Disappointment” and subsequently went on until well after sunrise, moving on from the original house party to a dirty, horrible beach on the banks of the river that we somehow found our way to. On said beach, we engaged in improvisatory theatre and then our friend Tom got his knob out before eating some dirty seaweed and commenting it “tasted of oil and poo”.

Then you leave university and enter the adult world, and parties tend to take on that air of vague respectability once again. Rather than being aimless, meaningless social occasions, they tend to revolve around a special event, much as they did in childhood. In our case, we’re celebrating our housewarming, but they’re also often thrown in celebration of the new year or someone’s birthday. In many ways, an adult party (not THAT kind of “adult party”) is a lot closer to the joyful exuberance of a child’s party than anything else, albeit with everyone usually behaving in a slightly more respectable manner than your average child.

The exception to the “special event” classification of adult (NO) parties is, of course, the “dinner party”, which isn’t really a “party” as such in that you’re not really celebrating anything. No, rather you’re just having people around for dinner, presumably in an attempt to show off your cooking skills and talk in a respectable, grown-up way around the dinner table before retiring to the living room to, I don’t know, listen to jazz or something. I’m not quite sure at what age you start having “dinner parties” but it doesn’t feel quite like something that’s “right” just yet. Do people even have “dinner parties” any more? The very concept of “dinner parties” feels like something from an Alan Ayckbourn play.

Anyway, there’s no real point to this post, I’m aware, I just wanted to write something before everyone arrived and starts eating the copious amounts of party food we have laid on for them. As I say, if you’re in the Southampton area, are free tonight and missed out on an invite (probably because I assumed you were no longer in the area) then feel free to show up and say hello — contact me for the address.

Now I’m off to gaze longingly at the bajillion cupcakes Andie’s made.