Comments on: 1747: I Still Don't Care

By: judsgamereviews

judsgamereviews — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 02:16:05 +0000

To quote a stick figure "You make some good points."!!! You have just turned me around. I have a negative friend who stresses me out within minutes of being in their company - they have dramas all the time, a supposedly abusive husband who in public seems quite nice, yet she does nothing to stop the situation. I've shown her how to grow some balls and stand up to him, and have enabled her independence in practical ways but still the dramas go on and she does nothing concrete about it. I tell myself this is her problem not mine but it goes on and on and on. She has worn me out. I've asked her not to talk about it when she's with me because if she isn't going to do anything about it then I can't help her any more and I just can't handle the stress. She says okay and in the next breath continues with the drama 'chat'. Sheeesh. I told my Pete that I think I am allergic to her and he laughed as I expected him to. But you know I think I might be allergic to her :-@ I basically need to not care - as you say. I get angry with him for her sake, and with her for my sake, and spend my time all wound up. So I am going to move on, at least emotionally. I'm not going to hear it any more. I'll sit there and think "Nuninuninu" in my head while she rants and raves and grizzles. When the only things she says are negative, instead of saying 'don't be negative all the time' I'll think of your comic strip and lol inside. How can I be creative and paint when I'm surrounded by negativity and stress. So that's it mate. You've been a great help. I knew all this of course, but was trying to push on despite it. Now I'm going to be indifferent. And to all the niggles that I've been sending emails to those in charge to try to make a change. Bugga it. Why should it always be me that is wound up and pointed in the direction of fixing things by people who want the change but won't do it themselves. I'm stuffing my super-heroine suit in the bottom drawer! (You can show me doing so in your strip if it helps.) I'm putting on my painter's outfit (as if) and thinking whale songs, jellyfish jaunts, oriental flute music and peace and quiet. I hope ... :D

By: llirium

llirium — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 17:39:18 +0000

In reply to Pete Davison. I didn't feel the echo chamber as strongly until it hit closer to home, it's disturbing to think I'm surrounded by this many people that think like this in and around where I live. Twitter is a fools' replacement for genuine discourse, at the worst. Of course attention whores (of whatever gender) were drawn to it like flies to honey.

By: Chris Caskie

Chris Caskie — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 15:33:10 +0000

I enjoy that one of the cornerstones of our friendship is that we not only care about some of the same things . . . but that we also DON'T care about many of the same things. lol

By: Pete Davison

Pete Davison — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 14:26:37 +0000

In reply to llirium. That's precisely the main reason why I got out. Twitter was becoming less a means of staying in touch with people and more a dramarama echo chamber with everyone being perpetually offended about one thing or another, or arguing over bullshit I simply can't bring myself to give a toss about. I miss the people I left behind, but not enough to have to wade through all that crap again. Were I ever to go back, it would be with a protected account and a very carefully curated Following list.

By: llirium

llirium — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 13:42:33 +0000

I'm seriously debating if I should follow you and quit Twitter. It's not that Twitter isn't useful. It's that I have to deal with the "Trends" bit. That reminder of whatever new "cause" is so interesting and vital to people I'm (usually) diametrically opposed to, but that still live "nearby". Ok, I'm zooming in so far on the web version that I can't see the "Trends" tab anymore. Feeling ridiculous, though. What you did is making more and more sense. The moment it feels like the drama/stress is bigger than its usefulness, I'm gone.