Comments on: 1080: How These Endless "Friendzone" Rants Make Me Feel

By: Pete Davison

Pete Davison — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 11:37:20 +0000

Thanks for all the comments on this, all. I know I shouldn't think too much about it -- I said as much above, I think -- but those who feel in similar ways will probably appreciate where I'm coming from on this. It's an ugly business that feels like bullying, "justified" or not -- and yes, I have pointed this out to some people who write or share these things, and they genuinely do believe that what they are doing is justified.

By: craigbamford

craigbamford — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 20:25:56 +0000

I had a longer comment on this…but, honestly? I wouldn't internalize this too much. Men who mock other men for vulnerability and preen about their attractiveness and confidence are reinforcing patriarchal gender roles, not fighting them.

No matter how many times they drop the word "privilege".

By: judsgamereviews

judsgamereviews — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 14:31:05 +0000

Bravo my friend. Well Done. Well Said. If they don't get the message with that lot, then there is no hope for them. Repeat – FOR THEM – NOT YOU. You are a shining star, whose talents and sensitive understanding and ability to express youself freely are remarkable. Others who have been through similar experiences may be curled into foetal positions by the muck slung at them constantly. But you have striven and risen above it – AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT. You are strength personified! With Andie at your side, you can put that anxious persona away in whatever compartment your imagination can provide for you – permanently. It can be done – I know this from my own experiences not just in my early years when I assumed responsibility for what was happening to me, but also the many blows applied occasionally to try to undermine me.
I took the positive of whatever dire thing it was forward and cast the negatives from me. And coped. And continued. As you will continue to do.
Be that person I have described Pete – be that person that I know you are. How can I possibly know you? From your writing – all of it – factual and fictional – it is all revealing. As do all your friends, close ones, and all of those who read your blogs regularly. They can't fail to be in awe of your incredible mental processes – the way you think and write about issues big and small. Bask in our admiration, Pete.
If you took a poll from your readers you would be flooded with support.
I am proud to call you my mate – even if it is only over the last 15 odd months since I discovered your blog-site. I followed immediately and haven't regretted doing so for a moment!
Never give up, Pete – I refuse to and will continue to do so.
continue to articulate . . . May the force be with you, angry jedi!! 😀

By: Andie

Andie — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 13:40:39 +0000

love you. xxx

By: MattCaulder

MattCaulder — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 13:34:14 +0000

I wish I could think of a better post than "I agree". The more I read your blog Pete, the more I grow concerned that we're the same person and you're my British Tyler Durden. As I was reading, I was shaping my reply and then you added almost the exact same paragraph at the end. The authors statements are horribly gross over-generalizations. He's killing a roach with an A-bomb. Did he destroy his intended target? Sure, but there was a lot of extra damage. And he didn't account for folks like you (and myself, if I'm honest) that have had trouble being in relationships because how can you tell someone you love them if you don't even love yourself? Luckily for some people, they grow up accepted by their peers and socially adjusted. But, we're not as lucky.